Enjoy the story. Being not true does not make it a lie in any moral sense. Parents sometimes worry because their children seem to have no regard for the truth at all. They may overhear them mentioning Mommy's new dress when she hasn't got one, or announcing that they were sick last night when they weren't, or just telling a friend that they are going out for lunch when they aren't. There are lots of reasons for casually inaccurate talk and an important one is that the child hears it from adults. Adults tell endless untruths out of tact, kindness, a desire to avoid hurting other people's feelings or to save their own time.
Children hear them.
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Your child hears you agreeing with Mrs. Smith that the weather is much too hot when you have just told him how much you like the heat, hears you on the telephone excusing yourself from something because you have invisible visitors.
Unless the reasons for these "white" lies are explained to him, he cannot be expected to see why he must never exaggerate or falsify when you can. If your child tells so many stories and adds so much embroidery to his accounts of daily life that you cannot be sure what is true and what is not, it may be time to make it clear to him why truth matters.
Don't fall back on it being "naughty" to tell lies. Instead, try him with the story of "the boy who cried wolf.
He will enjoy it. Having told it, you can discuss it with him. Point out that you, and all the people who help take care of him, really need to be able to distinguish between what is true and what is not, so as to be sure of knowing when something important has happened to him or when he is really feeling ill or scared. Phrase the whole conversation so that he feels you care about his telling the truth because you care about him and want to be sure you look after him properly, that it is a matter of accurate communication rather than "being good.
Many young children -- especially those with no older brothers and sisters to keep asserting "That's mine!
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Within the family there will be lots of things that belong to everybody, some that belong to particular people but can be freely borrowed and a few that are "private possessions" for the use of the owner only. Outside the family there are complications too. It is all right to keep the little ball you found in the bushes in the park but it is not all right to keep a purse.
It is all right to bring your painting home from nursery school but not a piece of play dough. People are allowed to take flyers from stores though not the whole pile but not packages of soup not even one. There's no purpose in making a moral issue out of young child's collecting things that catch his fancy until he's able to understand all this.
You cannot afford to take it entirely casually, though, because even at the age of three or four, other people may call it stealing and make a major song and dance about it. You might find it useful to separate the issue of principle from the complexities of daily behavior. Discuss the first and have some rules to guide the second, such as: don't bring anything away from somebody else's house without asking; always ask a grown-up if you may keep anything you find; don't pick anything up in a store unless a grown-up says it's all right.
Try not to be especially moralistic about money. If your child takes some from your purse, stop and ask yourself what you would have said if it had been a lipstick he took, and then say the same about the money. To young children both are the same. They know money is precious, of course, because they hear you talking about it and see you exchanging it for nice things.
But to children, money is like those tokens you put in slot machines; they have no concept of real money.
How to Address Stealing Behavior as a Parent
The child who behaves like a magpie, collecting in a bottom drawer money he never tries to use and other people's possessions he does not even really want, may be in emotional trouble. He may be trying to take in a symbolic way something that he does not feel he is being given. It is probably love or approval that he feels short of. The founder and CEO of the company.
All to get his numbers up. The whole story is insane. If you want to see it unfold in real time, check out the video Ryan posted a few weeks ago:.
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Call people not on their reference lists. See how they worked with others on their team. Call former customers and ask about their experiences with that salesperson. In short, take your time. Create a system in which you can review calls and emails regularly.
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I know you talked to [new sales hire], so I wanted to learn more about that experience. Have we done everything we can to treat you well and set you up for success? If all of the feedback is positive, you can ease off a little. Instead of checking in every week, check in monthly or quarterly. Collect as much evidence as you can. Try to determine whether this is a pattern of behavior or an outlier.
Check out their call and email activity. Check in with prospects and customers. Take a day or two to really do your homework. Then, put together an action plan. What might happen if you confront them and they admit to fraud?
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What might happen if they deny any wrongdoing? Compile a termination checklist , just in case your suspicions are verified. If the fraud is crazy enough, you might even want to reach out to your lawyer. Can you explain this to me? There might actually be a good explanation. No second chances. In the end, part ways gracefully and call an immediate meeting with your team. Explain what happened, how it happened, how you caught it, and ask them for feedback on how to prevent this kind of bullshit in the future. The team will appreciate your honesty and transparency.
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